Regardless of gender, do you ever find yourself wondering why you don't like someone?
I've blocked people on social networking sites, but I can't help peeking at them, or I'm curious about their movements even though I don't want to get involved.
“Even though we know that we are who we are, we sometimes compare ourselves to that person we hate.
If you don't know why, you'll just get stressed out.
Why do you dislike the person and why do you care about them?
Determine the reasons and take measures to take care of yourself.
Here are some tips on the psychology behind it and how to keep a good distance from people you don't like.
When someone does something you don't like and you don't like it.
In order to solve such problems, you first need to have a calm understanding of the background that led you to dislike your partner.
First of all, let's unpack the cases where people disliked each other because they were treated with obvious malice.
I'm being bad-mouthed and talked about behind my back.
When people talk about you behind your back when you are not around.
This is easy to understand because the other party has a clear malicious intent.
The reason why I am concerned in this case is because I want to know if they are still talking bad about me as they have been doing.
If there are rumors about one thing or another, everyone wants to know the details, right?
If only we didn't have to listen to our own bad stories, we wouldn't have to feel bad.
I've been looking at blogs and asking my friends, “What did she say? What did she say?
I am the one who is depressed by it, but it is impossible to tell me not to worry about it.
He knew who I liked, and he took it from me.
He knew I had a crush on him, and he was flirting with me in front of my eyes and communicating with me behind my back.
Or, I was seduced from the side by a man I was dating, or actually sidetracked.
If it was done maliciously, and even more so if the person she was in love with had feelings for her.
We can't just hate and resent them.
The reason why I am curious in this case is precisely because I want to know what the relationship is with that person.
Are you in a relationship?
Do you have a date?
Are you going to this restaurant with him?
When you start to be interested in someone, you can't help but check out every single photo they have uploaded, even if it's just to see what they want.
Direct harassment.
They may say harsh words directly to you, or act in a way that is clearly hostile.
It may be graceful because you are not sneaking around in the shadows, but it can also cause a lot of psychological damage.
If it's someone you have to see every day at work or school, you will feel even more depressed.
If you are unhappy because of your partner, and your partner seems to be happy every day, you can't help but feel angry.
It is a pattern of being curious and investigating the other person, eager to somehow find out what is cute about them or what is inferior to them.
There may also be a slippery feeling of wanting to somehow take advantage of her weakness and get even.
If you don't like something that was done to you, but you don't like it.
There are times when we unilaterally dislike someone, even though they have no malicious intentions toward us.
“Before you get bogged down in thinking that you are a small-minded jerk, take a look at yourself objectively and try to understand why you are the way you are.
Because their personalities and circumstances are similar to mine.
How would you feel if you met someone who didn't like you and had a similar personality to you?
You feel as if their every move is a mirror of you, and you can't help but feel hostile toward them.
If the person seems happy, subconsciously you will think, “Why am I not happy and this person is…” and put your own ideal on top of it.
Also, if the person is unhappy, on the contrary, you can be happy about it.
This will make you realize how ugly your mind is and make you feel even more depressed.
In other words, it's “homophobia.
But everyone is important to themselves.
As an expression of your desire to punish while keeping an eye on yourself, you check every move of the other person who is similar to you.
The flip side of my inferiority complex.
Everyone has an inferiority complex.
No matter how beautiful a woman is or how wealthy she is, unless she is a very good person, she will always compare herself to others and develop hatred for those who have something she does not have.
Even if the other person has not done anything wrong, just “having what you want” can be a factor in disliking them.
People look for something that they are better than, or something that they have that the other person doesn't have.
Sometimes we dare to try to make contact in order to find a factor that we can mount.
However, once a person has a sense of inferiority, it is difficult to change it.
Problems in opposite-sex relationships, jealousy
For example, if I see someone I like and I don't have the courage to attack them, but I see someone of the same sex who does, I feel impatient, angry, and frustrated.
This is especially true if the target is the same person of the opposite sex.
It's a painful and dirty feeling, so painful that it's hard to put into words.
But she is not doing anything wrong.
I'm just doing what any woman in love would do, which is to appeal to the person she loves.
And yet, for those of us who can't do that, we feel as if we've been selfishly “left out of the loop”.
It was inevitable that she would be wondering if things had worked out with the person she loved.
I don't want any part of this! If that's the case.
Now that you understand why you dislike them, the next step is to deal with them.
First of all, you may want to reject the person anyway, because you don't care if you lose touch with them in the future.
Block social networking sites too!
I'd rather not have anything to do with them ever again! If you have the determination and determination to never have anything to do with them again, then you should just cut off all contact with them.
What needs to be done is simple and concise.
Delete and block all social networking related friends, and block messenger and other contact related activities.
In any case, eliminate all the elements that make you even remotely connected to your partner.
It will certainly help to clear the air.
And never get involved unless you make contact with them yourself.
And my spirit won't be cut any further.
The disadvantage is that when they find out that you have done it, they may tell on you.
But by the time you use this method, you're probably already in a state of mind that says, “I don't care about that! I don't care.
Clearly tell the other person that you don't like them.
If the person you are talking to seems like a good person to talk to, and if you have the potential to speak clearly to them, it can be helpful to be honest with them about what you are thinking.
“Tell them, “I don't like you,” “I don't want to get involved with you,” and at the same time, “That's why I don't want you to get involved.
If the person is mature enough to use this method, it is possible for both of you to agree to keep your relationship apart with respect to your feelings.
This is truly the “most peaceful way to break the ice.
It's also a way to make up for lost time when you've both grown up and changed your minds.
Tell people what's going on and get them on your side.
If you have a lot of friends in common with the person you dislike, it can be helpful to let people know about the fact that you dislike them and if they are harassing you.
It may make you feel uncomfortable around them, but still, it's a big deal to know or not know that fact, even if it's just your closest friends.
For example, when you are invited to a gathering of friends, it would make a difference if you could say to them, “Is it okay if that girl is also there? It would make a difference to us if you could just say something like that.
Also, if the other person is clearly at fault, get them on your side by being sympathetic.
If you eliminate them naturally, they will become less of a concern over time.
How to keep a reasonable distance from someone you have come to dislike.
No matter how much you dislike each other, you are both adults, so it may be difficult to completely reject each other.
If this is the case, learn how to maintain a reasonable distance from that person.
Avoid relationships with mutual friends for a while.
When you have a mutual friend, no matter how much distance you keep between you and the person you are talking to, you will unexpectedly find that you have something in common again.
You are trying to avoid looking at them, but your efforts will not be rewarded if a friend posts an article with a picture of you together.
So one of the best ways to do this is to keep a distance from both mutual friends at the same time until your own feelings of concern are calmed down.
It is about blocking the route to information about that person itself.
If a period of time goes by without stimulation, it is more likely that the hypersensitive mind will gradually round out.
Build new relationships.
When you have someone in the same community that you don't like, it's hard not to care, no matter what moves you make.
The more we are aware of it, the more we get stuck in it, but if we reveal it, we end up hating ourselves, and the stress tends to go inward.
If that's the case, I recommend that you take the plunge and try making new acquaintances in a completely new place.
Go to a place where there is absolutely no element of the person you don't like, and put yourself in a place where you can't hear their face, voice, or what's going on.
There is never just one place where you belong.
If you are brave enough to look for it, you will surely find a place other than now.
I dare you to get close to me once.
If it is obvious that the person is being mean to you, it is a different story, but if you just don't like the person on your own, you can try to spend some time with them.
If you are only preoccupied with your preconceived notions, the feeling of dislike will be amplified more and more on its own.
Maybe he's not what you imagined when you talk to him.
You may have a weakness and show it to us.
Or it could be a good-natured person who makes you laugh a lot.
The other person may have misunderstood you as well.
If the two of you have a superficial relationship where you can talk, why not have a heart-to-heart talk just once?
summary
You don't have to force yourself to like someone you don't like anything.
But I don't hate them any more than I have to.
Even if you don't dare to eat an ingredient you don't like, you may find that it suits your palate better than you expected when served as a different dish.
Relationships are like that, and it's OK to take them more lightly than you think.
If you don't like something, it's okay not to like it.
There's nothing wrong with hating them, they're human.
The important thing is to accept yourself for who you are and not to do something unfortunate like self-harming to put more stress on yourself.
Find happiness in your everyday life. When your days are full, you won't care what the haters are up to!
